By Romeo Vitelli — 2015
Learning to live with grief and loneliness after the death of a spouse.
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"But now we’re asked — and sometimes forced — to carry grief as a solitary burden. And the psyche knows we are not capable of handling grief in isolation." - Francis Weller
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Death, regardless of the details, is capable of devastating those it leaves behind. Brother, sister, son, daughter, mother, or father – all losses are significant.
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“Loss is simply what happens to you in life. Meaning is what you make happen,” the author of a new book says.
After my husband died, a silly catchphrase became a lifeline for me. Instead of wishing for a reality I couldn’t have, I embraced the circumstances I was dealt.
Unmarried companions can face the same grief and desolation that a husband or wife does at the loss of a partner. But the suffering of a girlfriend or boyfriend may be minimized by others, who assume it shouldn’t last so long or hurt so deeply – as in, “Well, he was only your boyfriend.”
Augusta Ford was used to dealing with grief and loss in her work as a psychotherapist. Then her husband died. Would her years of experience help in her own grieving process?
Shock. Pain. Grief. Disbelief. All of these are emotions you might be faced with after your spouse passes away. An event such as this can leave you shaken and dazed, as life continues on, seemingly without any concern for you and your loss.
When Caroline Doughty's husband died, many people wanted to help, but very few knew how. Four years on, she has written a guide for the friends and families of the recently bereaved.
Women make up 11 million of the 13 million bereaved spouses in the US, forced to cope with major life decisions when they are at their most vulnerable. Meanwhile, it can be nearly impossible to find a truly understanding friend.
Grief comes in many forms. Any loss can touch off a series of emotional responses in you. You can help yourself move through your pain to healing.