By Alexandra Schwartz — 2018
From the New Yorker Festival, the couples therapist and podcast host discusses infidelity, apologies, and the problem with wedding vows these days.
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When you fixate on what others are or aren’t doing based on their astrology, you can weave a narrative that’s both convincing and convenient, but true intimacy can't be developed when you're operating from ideas about what you think you know about a person.
Learning to express anger in a healthy way will help couples resolve conflicts, instead of letting them simmer.
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Passive-aggressiveness includes the obvious passive, withdrawn or apathetic approach to relationships. This approach will spill over into all sort of adult relationships, from friendships, intimate partners, school and on to the workplace.
There’s a gap between what you’re really thinking and what you’re saying. You’re distracted by all that’s going on inside and you’re uncertain about what to share and what’s better left unsaid.
If you think your partner needs to lose a few, approach 'the talk' with caution. Here's what to say — and what to skip.
It’s become more and more difficult to remain vulnerable, trusting, and open to life in this era of uncertainty, global upheaval, divorce, and disrupted family life.
Think of some of the greatest joys in your life, and also some of your deepest sorrows and frustrations. Chances are, they all have to do with relationships. - Melanie Joy
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Love is not only difficult to find, but is even more challenging for many people to accept and tolerate.
Some tips to help you nourish each other's hearts.
Your idea of a great Sunday is to rise with the sun for a long run. Your partner, however, has other ideas. His notion of a proper Sunday involves sleeping late and enjoying a leisurely brunch over the Sunday paper.