By Alexandra Schwartz — 2018
From the New Yorker Festival, the couples therapist and podcast host discusses infidelity, apologies, and the problem with wedding vows these days.
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Embrace the awkwardness.
It’s become more and more difficult to remain vulnerable, trusting, and open to life in this era of uncertainty, global upheaval, divorce, and disrupted family life.
If your spouse cheated and you're grappling with what to do, know that there's no rush to make a decision. After all, this is perhaps one of the most significant decisions you'll make in your life, so take time to think about what would be best for you.
Perel offers nuanced support for individuals, couples, and other lovers in the throes of an affair, or its aftermath.
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Discovering a partner has cheated on you can be devastating. You might feel hurt, angry, sad, or even physically sick. But above all, you might be wondering “Why?”
Infidelity is one of the toughest setbacks for a relationship to overcome, but it can also be the catalyst for positive change.
Lindsey Phillips discusses different studies on infidelity, and important components needed for healing between partners.
Secrets have insidious negative effects and are often a barrier to closeness whether revealed or not; at least, once they're cautiously and carefully shared, there is a chance for remorse, anger, disappointment and healing.
Each case of infidelity is different and fulfills a different need. Although knowing why a partner cheated likely won't lessen any pain you feel, being able to rationalize the behavior and define it will alleviate some confusion.
Motivations for extramarital affairs are vast and can vary by gender.
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