By Tyler Coates — 2018
The relationships expert is demystifying couples therapy with her podcast, Where Should We Begin? But her approach to problem-solving goes beyond love, passion, and sex.
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Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., one of North America's leading authorities on communication and relationships, talks about why we fall in and out of love; how to heal yourself after a divorce; and how to talk -- and listen -- powerfully.
So what is this Imago stuff, and why is it so popular? The complete theory is a multifaceted model explaining attraction, conflict and healing within intimate relationships.
Fear plays a huge role in relationships, and two fears in particular cause some of the biggest problems. If you understand how these two fears work, you’re much more likely to attract a healthy relationship into your life.
Most of us struggle at one time or another with an inability to feel what’s going on inside us at the level of emotion and energy flow. The technical term for this problem is “alexithymia.”
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For over two decades, I have worked with men and women from around the world to help them improve their relationships.
You can’t talk someone out of being in love with Darth Vader, and sadly, the worse it gets the more your friend might try to talk himself into trying to make it work because if there is a happy ending all the ways he’s had to abase himself to stay in the relationship will have been “worth it.
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The communication technique of Non-Violent Communication (NVC) developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg provides a way to communicate with our partners safely and peacefully.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.” ~Nelson Mandela
Many people believe that if you meet the right person and fall in love, you are meant to be with this person. That there won’t be anything you will ever want to change about them. That it should just work out.
The five stages of a relationship are the Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, the Decision, and Wholehearted Love. Every single relationship moves through these five stages—though not only once.